Dreamer���s World March 18, 2018 ��� Decision Time

    My mind has been clouded with distractions for the last few months. This often happens when I recognize that there is a big decision coming up. Often I don’t know what that decision will be until later on, and this is the case today.
    I have become too dependent on social media like FaceBook and Twitter. There, I said it. I have been unconsciously struggling with this for some time, and this morning the reason for my malaise finally dawned on me. I have become part of the problem by simply spending my time online re-posting things rather than actually being creative or unique. The temptation to simply reinforce the echo chamber is very strong, and hard to resist.
    I see a clear difference between FaceBook and Twitter. FaceBook is much more of a product that demands interaction, whether it is real communication with someone or not. Twitter is simply a bulleting board for garbage that begs for a response from anyone.
    I have been thinking about the lack of genuine interaction with the people I supposedly know via social media. It is basically non-existent, to be honest. That comes as no surprise to me, but there are people I know in person from the past who fail to interact online and never in person or via the telephone. The sad truth is that these actions, that we are all guilty of, simply indicates the relative importance that we place on real relationships in the digital age.
    FaceBook helped me to reconnect with some old friends I grew up with. We talked on the phone multiple time, and then things slowly drifted back to the point they were at before we reconnected in the first place. This isn’t a criticism of them as people, it also isn’t an absolution of myself for some type of noble behavior, it is just stating facts.
    Without a real, personal, face-to-face relationship to fall back on, social media doesn’t help to reconnect people for very long. I then proceeded to occupy my online time with reposting items I saw that were of interest to me. In doing so, I fell into the same trap that I would have criticized other for. The struggle I mentioned earlier was coming to terms with this, and understanding that I was doing the same thing.
    I am an optimist and a realist. I am not making some grand declaration that I am abandoning FaceBook forever. I simply need time to refocus on my writing and my own creative side for the time being. I am making the decision to stop checking FaceBook multiple times a day to see what people who I have no real contact with are talking about. I will focus instead on genuine interactions with those people who do choose to communicate is some rudimentary form.
    When I started this blog, it was the most important thing in my digital life. It is time to return to that philosophy and listen to myself for a change. My mind feels more at rest now that I have made the decision, so it must be the right one.

Dreamer’s World February 5 2016 – Friday At Last

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The last two days have been a blur around here. I managed to get Hal (person) off on his trip to Philadelphia yesterday and then I completed my day at work. After that, I was busy cleaning and scrubbing out the shower and doing laundry. Today was a short day because I am going to Happy Hour with the local team members form the company. I only have one meeting that I will take part in before leaving for the event and once that is over with, I am coming home and will be here for the evening. I will make sure that I meet my step goal for today and will probably take care of a good part of that while I am out this afternoon. Part of me wants to stop at Best Buy, but that probably isn’t the smartest idea after having a beer or two. I will walk things off without spending any money, at least that is my plan right now.
    The workday passed without incident. I went to the gathering for Happy Hour and had a good time. We didn’t talk a lot about work, more about what was going on with each of us, and surprisingly about music. Afterwards, I did walk through the mall, but I didn’t pick up anything. I made certain to stay away from Best Buy across the street, just to be safe and then I came home.
    The evening has been very quiet. I made my 15,000 step goal for today before 1900 and settled down and watched a little TV before it bored me and I turned it off after less than 1 hour. The Stooges are all around me in various stages of sleep, and I am sure that I will join them before it gets late tonight.
    I truly enjoy quiet times like this. They are rare and should be cherished. As I mentioned, TV bores me very easily and I am happier without it, even as a background noise it is disruptive as far as I am concerned. I hope that Hal (person) is having a passable time in Philadelphia given the circumstances that required him being there. I am sure that he will call later this evening, and we will talk for a few minutes before he goes to bed.
    Tomorrow is a day without any plans. I am tempted to go out, but I have absolutely no idea where I would go or what I would do. If the weather is nice, I will just take a nice long walk around the neighborhood to pass the time. I will also do more laundry and make sure that the apartment is clean. I am amazed sometimes at how quiet I prefer my life to be. In years past, I would have been out the door just to find something to do. Now I am more content with quiet times and no surprises. I suppose I am getting old after all.
    I remember the days before I met Hal. I would not stay at home unless I was actually sick. I can look back on those days now and realize that I was running away from things to a degree. I truly wasn’t happy, and always being out helped me to mask that. I am very happy now and I don’t feel any need to just be out to be out when I enjoy being here.
    When I met Hal, we went out all the time. I could drink everyone under the table and not feel aftereffects at all. I cut way back on drinking as Hal and I spent more time together. He never said a word, I just knew that I had found the person I was supposed to be with and there was no more need to numb myself from the pain I had gone through. If nothing else proves that we are supposed to be together, then that does all by itself.
    Occasionally, I still think that it would be nice to go out, but then I almost subconsciously remember the reasons I did so in the past. That always convinces me that I make the right choice by playing things safe. I have too much to lose now, I didn’t before.
    The Stooges and I all miss Hal (person) right now. But we also know that he will be back on Sunday evening. That thought makes all of us very happy.

Dreamer’s World January 16 2016 – Rainy Saturdays and Reflections

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As Saturday begins here, it is overcast and actually foggy this morning. Hal (person) is already at work so I have some time to write and reflect. This is a normal part of my weekend, I really am enjoying my blog more and more since I started the Blogging 101 course and I have recently passed the 500 likes mark. I want to take this opportunity to send a THANK YOU to everyone who has visited this blog and found it worthwhile or interesting. Honestly, this is something that I never would have prophesied, but I have to admit that I was so happy when I was notified that I had passed that milestone. It gives me confidence that other people are at least interested in what I have to say. I realize that this blog is not the most inflammatory blog out there. It focuses for the most part on my everyday life and how I make my way through it. I do believe that my writing skills have improved in the process.
     As my birthday continues to approach, I have talked with Hal (person) quite a bit about it. I don’t want any extravagant presents, I am more than comfortable with my life the way it is. I have thought back through the years and I know that the last 16 years with Hal have indeed been the happiest in my life. I told him the other night at dinner that all I want and need is to be together with him, and The Stooges. We are a family and together we can withstand anything and accomplish anything. The days of wanting things just to have things are in the past. I am incredibly lucky and it has taken some reflection to emphasize to myself just how true that statement really is.
     There have been so many people that have been important in my life. Sadly, most of them are either passed on or have moved on and we have lost touch. I was not part of a large family, not part of a close extended family. This means that I have always been more on the self-sufficient side throughout my life. When I met Hal (person), that began to change. the walls were breached and he became a true part of my life. We have both guarded our lives very well and found that so very few are worth letting inside the walls. It sounds rather sad, but I assure you it isn’t. Our intense focus on one another has strengthened our relationship throughout it 16+ years. As year 52 approaches, I can honestly say that I am the happiest I have ever been in my life.
     This blog has given me a real sense of perspective since I began it a few years ago. It began in fits and starts, and it took me a long time to really make the decision to focus on it and commit time to it each day. I learned what to write, and more importantly, what NOT to write as I began to share my life here. I am very respectful of others’ privacy and I demand that mine be respected as well. I believe that this is more easily accomplished by not calling others out online if there are disagreements. Indeed I now just block those who would post thing to my various social media accounts in order to argue or ridicule. The most important aspect of that decision was my choice to never acknowledge them at all. When they are blocked, I never mention who they are or what caused my action. Life is too short to be that worried about other people and argue with them in the nether-sphere.
     Back to the here-and-now, I actually have no plans for today while Hal (person) is at work. I need my rest, and this is the time to get it. After Hal gets home we can make decisions about doing something, but we  seldom make advanced plans anymore and prefer to live more spontaneously when we are together.
     I have been productive this morning while I spend time with The Stooges. I just changed my car and renter’s insurance in order to save about $20 a month and that qualifies as time well spent. The new policies will take effect next month and I am happy with the decision. I know that there is no such thing as loyalty from a company to a customer anymore. I always check the insurance rates once a year, and the fact that Navy Federal recommended this company made it an easy decision to call them and get more information. So, it is now 1030 and I have accomplished that much. The skies have brightened and today is looking like a great day. While the idea of going out is appealing, I know that I also need to get some rest and spend time with The Stooges.
     After several hours of resting, Hal (person) has come home from work and I’m sure he will let me know if there will be any plans for this evening. He stopped at Best Buy and picked up his computer, which has been nothing but a source of exasperation for him. I have been hoping that Hal will eventually make the switch to Apple. It is a matter of personal preference for him, and I respect that. Hal is going to reconnect his computer and try things out after he takes a shower. 
     If we don’t go anywhere later, I will seriously think about ordering dinner for delivery. There is plenty of time to decide on that.
     Kentucky lost to Auburn. Judging from the way the game started, I am not surprised at the outcome. This is a different Kentucky team from a year ago. They will do as well as they will do and no amount of getting upset over things will change that.
     After the game, perhaps to take out some frustration, I physically destroyed some old external hard drives that I found while Hal (person) and I were cleaning up all the clutter in the bedroom/office. The drives were very old, and the connectors no longer were available on my iMac, so it was time for them to go. I am sure that they had already been erased, but I took the old Navy precaution of opening them cup and then destroying the hard drive disks. The pieces have been thrown in the trash compactor for the building so there is nothing for me to worry about.
     Hal (person) is still asleep and might be for a few more hours. I haven’t made up my mind about ordering dinner, I don’t want to spend a lot of money right now. If I decide to wander out, there are a few places that I can go within a block or so. I will make up my mind later about that.
     I am still glad that Hal is home, even if he is still asleep. I don’t mind being quiet, most of the time I am anyway. Hal (cat) makes more noise than I do announcing himself at odd intervals, or as he walks into a room. I love hearing him talk. Stevie Nicks talks a lot less, and Spartacus barely speaks at all. They are all loved, and they know it.
     The evening has been quiet. Hal (person) and I ate pizza and watched movies on the couch together. All of The Stooges visited us and life is good. I hope that everyone has had a great day and will have an even better tomorrow.