Slowing Down

Thursday, or as I like to call it, Friday Eve, is here and the weekend is nearly upon us. I’m already looking forward to some rest and relaxation starting tomorrow afternoon. 

Other than a trip to the grocery store there’s not much we need to do after work this afternoon. I want to get some chicken breasts and veggies for the Instant Pot so I can cook no later than tomorrow night. 

Once the grocery run is complete I believe we’ll be home for the remainder of the evening. I am actually very tired as works draws to a close here. 

When I’m Wrong

I don’t like to admit when I make a mistake. I am only human and mistakes are a part of life but that doesn’t make them any easier to deal with.
When I was a small child I said something very hurtful to a friend of mine. I was mad at them and I wanted to make them suffer. When my parents found out what I had said to upset the friend so much, I was forced to go to their house and to apologize in front of his entire family for what I had said, and to ask forgiveness from them.

Too often we see people today who get caught and their apologies are more about being sorry they got caught than about actual contrition. The phrase “I didn’t mean to upset anyone, and I apologize to any I did hurt” is meaningless. Of course, someone was upset or you wouldn’t be apologizing in the first place. As for what you meant to say or imply, that is irrelevant during an apology. Your failed attempt at whatever the hell you were trying to say or demonstrate requires no further explanation.

I cannot understand why people are so deathly afraid of admitting their mistakes. Doing so certainly helps with your sanity and emotional well-being, and it removes stress from you at the same time. It isn’t pleasant to admit mistakes, but it is better than the alternative of continuing on without repercussions for your actions.

The Start Of Something Big

The data of our move is nearly set. If things go well we will move on April 2nd. I am very excited about the move but sad to leave a place we like so much. Unfortunately, the costs here are just getting too high to stay. 

Earlier today the mover we have worked with before came by and he will send us his latest estimate. We don’t expect any complications from him. In the meantime, Hal and I are beginning to box things up that we won’t need before we move.

We have moved many times through the years and this won’t be a problem for us. We are both looking forward to a new place and new adventures for us and The Stooges. We will always survive and prosper, the friends that will be further away aren’t that critical because we seem to be too far away for them to see us even now.

The first of April cannot get here soon enough!

A Valuable Lesson

Lessons are another word for learning from our mistakes, or from the mistakes of those who came before us. It usually doesn’t matter if others have already made the error; humans have the gift of wanting to make the same mistake again themselves. My story involves a genuinely one-way love. I was younger and thought that I knew everything necessary about life, and I considered myself a good judge of character. I didn’t realize some people were much better at acting than I was at spotting them. I fell head over heels in love and was busy making plans for a beautiful future together while the other person was making plans to abscond with my bank account and everything in it.

Luckily, my friends convinced me that I needed to see for myself what was going on and what I saw shocked me. The person I loved thought I was out of town or a few weeks. In reality, I was staying with friends and surreptitiously watching my significant other. I was only shocked the first time when I saw how they showed no regard for our relationship. I quickly built up my defenses and prepared to face them over their behavior.
When the time came to confront them, I was ready. I didn’t let the subject change because the confrontation was about their behavior, not mine. In less than 10 minutes, I had effectively ended the relationship and cast them to the curb. The pain was unbearable at the time, but I knew it w. I knew then that the mistake had been in allowing someone to win my trust and affection so easily. I swore that it would never happen to me again, and it hasn’t. I learned to be more wary of people and to delay putting my trust in them until I felt at ease.

Now I am happy after 20 years with Hal (person), and I am glad that, in hindsight, I learned the valuable lesson about trust and love.

Be Careful When You Choose The Hill You Want To Fight On…..

There is an old saying that you must be careful when choosing the hill that you decide to fight on because it might end up being the hill that you die on. I was reminded of this old saying when I saw an email from one of my bosses. He stated that the project wasn’t proceeding in the way he thought it should. He also indicated that the customer was completely wrong in their approach (his words, not mine) and that if there was no change in the next 60 days, he was going to resign. He has planted his flag on this hill, and he might very well see his career die on that hill in full view of everyone.

My first thought that the email must have been a mistake. However, more than two days later, there has been no recall or subsequent email explaining away the email. In a way, I can understand some of how he feels. It is frustrating to have a vision that looks so wonderful and seems to meet every expectation that the customer has. However, the customer is always right, and the customer pays the bills. If the customer has restrictions on how to improve their product that we create, we have to work with what the customer is willing to support, or we need to stay quiet. 

Watching a train wreck is never pleasant, but it has a morbid fascination and seems to draw attention to itself. I hate to see someone make a pointless sacrifice, especially when it becomes a public spectacle.

The Worst Should Be Over

Every year since Hal (person) and I moved to the DC area, we have lived with the knowledge that Winter would throw its worst tantrum at or around Presidents’ Day Weekend. We have had feet of snow 10 years ago, but now we have temperatures in the upper 50s with no cold weather in sight. I’m not complaining because I wish that we lived somewhere warmer in general, but everyone who has lived here for more than 10 years is talking about the change to the weather this Winter in particular.

Climate change is real and it is happening right in front of our eyes.

Mission Accomplished Rather Unexpectedly

On Saturday morning, Hal (person) and I ventured out to look at apartments because we will be moving in April. The place we live now has lost its damned mind and tried to jack our rent up by more than 10% if we signed up for a new lease. 

As soon as we stopped laughing we decided that it was time to get really serious about the apartment search. We had been looking in a rather abstract way for a few months, but now we are serious. 

The good news is that the first place we stopped had a beautiful apartment that will be available at exactly the right time for us. Rather than spend all day running around and comparing places, Hal (person) suggested that we just close the deal on the apartment we both liked. 

Mission accomplished. Now we can focus on preparing for the move on or just after the first of April.