I had never heard this quote before, but it sums up how we should live our lives. If we follow this advice, we will grow and prosper.
June is Pride month. For all the good things in my life, I had a dream about an old friend who, to the best of my knowledge, stopped communication when I came out to him and his wife.
He stayed in the Navy after I left at the end of my enlistment. After I came out to him, he said all the right things about friendship and not letting my confession change things.
About a year afterward, he and his wife welcomed their first child, a son, into the world. Hal and I bought the baby a present, a hanging mobile for his crib. We drive to my friend’s house to give them the gift. Their cars were there, but they didn’t answer the door. We figured that the new parents were exhausted, so we left the present on their doorstep.
So far, nothing to indicate a problem. However, over the next few weeks, every attempt to contact my friend and his wife met with silence. Voicemails went unanswered until I gave up. The feeling of rejection really hurt.
Without any contact from my friend, Hal and I were left to figure out what happened on our own. We settled on two possible scenarios.
The first scenario was that my friend was working on getting his commission as an officer (I found out he got it through sources years later), so he decided that having a gay couple as friends would negatively impact his career.
The second scenario is the one that really hurts to think about. That is when their son was born that they suddenly became concerned that somehow Hal or I was a threat to their son. Nothing could be further from the truth, but I can’t control what people choose to believe.
In the long run, none of this matters. I hope he and his family are all doing well. I would rather be forgotten than be remembered as a career impediment or a threat to his family. After 20 years, it is time to stop referring to him as my friend.
Hal and I are still together and better than ever. I hope I never dream about that part of my past again. It isn’t worth it.
I’m proud of who I am. I don’t need to spend time worrying about those who don’t care about me.
More words of wisdom that remind me of the vital importance of being ourselves, not who someone else wants us to be. We are all unique and wonderful. Celebrate who you are.
MALALA YOUSAFZAI Quotes about “Dreams”
“Let us make our future now, and let us make our dreams tomorrow’s reality.”
I looked up Malala and read her story. I can not imagine going through what she endured and emerging as a good person. She demonstrates more courage than most of us will ever have. Religious lunatics tried to assassinate her for her support of human rights, but she perseveres and flourishes.
The Glorification of Stupidity
One thing that annoys me about the situation we face in this country is what I call the Glorification of Stupidity. I am so tired of hearing people make decisions without facts, based on fear and hatred. They follow whatever their leaders tell them to without any thought whatsoever.
When asked why they deny science and truth, these people respond with the answer that their individual rights allow them to make their own choices. In the most basic sense, this is a true statement. However, this philosophy only works well in isolation, and not in a modern society. The danger lies in these people being misled into thinking that they are acting as individuals against “government” or “liberals” while they are being herded like the lemmings they really are yet claim to despise so greatly.
The world around these people means nothing because they see no value in what others think. After all, acknowledging others somehow destroys their “freedom,” or as I like to call it, “free dumb.” In response to this perceived threat, they race to outdo each other in some warped version of the old Barry Goldwater view that “Extremism in defense of individual liberty is not a vice” and attempt to out-stupid each other.
The media promotes this disgusting behavior by preaching the gospel of false equivalence and treating each opinion as equally valid in opposition to the truth. Not every idea is correct when suffering through the filter of reality.
We glorify stupidity. It harms us every day that we allow stupidity to govern our actions and influence how our country runs.
This quote struck me as soon as I saw it. The truth is there in so few words for us to see. The quote sums up what my parents taught me, that fear prevents critical thought, and lack of critical review destroys the mind.
I am always trying to think about myself and the world around me. I have to learn the balance between outer and inner. My focus needs to be on myself, the inner, before worrying about the outside world where you have less control.
Every day I see examples of this quote in action. This is why I rail against certain political parties and religions. I hate to see people surrender to fear and extinguish the flame of their minds. However, I know that no matter what I say, those people are already lost. I hope to prevent others from surrendering to fear, even though it must be so attractive to let someone else rule you through fear.