The world is full of things we all know are negative, destructive, and hypocritical. Thanksgiving is presented as the time to be grateful for what we have, followed the next day by a blatant wave of consumerism that preys on the feelings of inadequacy from the things we just celebrated being grateful for.
I remember being aware of these inconsistencies from my childhood because my parents never sugarcoated life. They taught me to find the joys in life each and every day instead of pretending that only one day was special. I never forgot that lesson.
There have been times when life was hard, but I always tried to live by what my parents taught me. I had lapses, but it was that inner knowledge that never let me stray too far away from the truth.
In my personal life, I have been the luckiest man in the world. I have been in a wonderful relationship with Hal, my partner, for almost 23 years. Now, I want to say that I waited for 36 years to find him, and there were times when I just felt like I was destined to go through life alone. I hoped for change, my optimism never wavered, but there were times I grew so tired of waiting. My patience and belief has been rewarded many times over.
Life can be hard and unpleasant, but finding the right person, the one you love, makes things wonderful.