Every now and then, I find myself looking at something with longing in my heart. We all do this from time to time, it is a part of being human. When that feeling lasts more than a few minutes, and doesn’t fade away, I know that it’s time to start concentrating and meditating to control and vanquish that feeling.
I’ve said before that Kindness starts with oneself. There’s nothing wrong with treating yourself right, and rewarding yourself from time to time. However, succumbing to the desire of simply wanting something that you don’t have is the first step on the road to trouble, and that is not what Kindness is all about.
When it comes to material possessions, I try my best to stop temptation in the early stages. I do this by first asking myself if I already have something similar to that object. In other words, am I trying to justify replacing or upgrading something I already have that still works? Most of the time, that answer is “yes”, and that means I don’t really need that thing.
There’s a difference between replacing something that still works and replacing something that no longer works. I have learned to not let myself trick me into unnecessary purchases. That lesson took awhile to learn, but it ties together with Kindness very neatly.
I no longer feel cheated or neglected when I refuse to make an unnecessary purchase. I feel inner peace because I know I’ve thought things through. I can survive with what I have. I don’t need to chase material possessions anymore.
Next time the desire bug starts acting up with you, take time to be thankful for what you already have, and truly decide if you really need that new thing in order to be happy. If you can be happy without that thing, then that thing isn’t truly necessary after all.