Kindness Journey – Day 47 – Changes

I have written in this blog for over 10 years. During that time, I have grown personally. I’m proud to say that since I embraced Kindness, my life has changed. However, none of this changes how I have grown during these years.

Someone suggested that I change to a new blog since I embraced Kindness. It was a tempting idea, but after some careful consideration, I decided that I would just continue posting to Dreamer’s World. If you look back through all my posts, you can see the change I mentioned. I believe that this visible evidence of change is important, and shows that we all grow. It also shows how Kindness can make a difference in someone’s life.

I’m not the man I was. I am the man I am now. I will be the man I’m supposed to be in the future. Life isn’t beat and pretty. It is full of twists and turns, triumphs and setbacks, love and loss, and personal growth. It is important to me that I don’t appear as a one-dimensional character. I am a human being, in all my imperfect glory.

Kindness can change your life, but never forget what you changed from.

Kindness Journey – Day 46 – Helping Others

If there was just one way to exercise Kindness in your life, it would have to be by helping others. Even making the offer to help can change someone’s day for the better.

Recently, I was at the grocery store. Self-absorbed, I found what I was looking for and made my way to the check-out lane. Personally, I will always go to a cashier because I dislike self-serve checkouts. Something always goes wrong, usually the plastic bags are so tightly compacted that I can’t open one.

At any rate, I made my way to the checkout line. There was no one behind me; I always look in case someone has just a few things to let them ahead of me.

I placed my items in the belt and within a minute a woman got in line behind me in one of those motorized shopping carts for the disabled. I couldn’t offer to let her go ahead of me because there was no room to let her pass, and the cashier already started ringing up my items.

The woman’s cart was filled to the brim with her groceries, and it was a slight uphill lift GeForce her to get items onto the conveyor belt. I immediately offered to help her unload her groceries into the conveyor belt, but she gently redo by saying that it was one of the ways she got her exercise.

I couldn’t help but feel that somehow I had failed in my attempt to be kind, but she smiled at me and said “Thank you for offering to help. That was a really kind thing to do.” It was then I realized that Kindness can ge the offer to help just as much as the help itself under the right circumstances.

A little Kindness goes a long way, and I just warn you, it is addictive. When you experience Kindness, you’re going to want more.

Be Kind to one another

Kindness Journey – Day 45 – Laptop or iPad or iPhone vs desktop

I spend too much time on my iPhone when it comes to web surfing, checking email, and yes, writing blog posts. My iPhone is just so convenient to use because I always have it with me.

I’ve tried to force myself to use my iPad and MacBook more often, but habits are hard to break. Right now, our apartment gets more and more cluttered with boxes as we prepare to move in late July, so space to put the MacBook in a place to be comfortable is getting more and more difficult. I have one of the magic keyboard, but that only works on a flat surface. An iPad can be uncomfortable to hold for more than a few minutes.

Once our move is over, I’m going to make use of my desk to become my main writing space.

Until then, I have to watch how much time I spend with my iPhone when it comes to online activities.

I love my MacBook and need to use it as my primary writing tool in the future. I got rid of my old iMac and haven’t felt the need to buy another one. When that time comes I might have to re-evaluate my desk situation. Until then, I’m all set and happy with how things have turned out.

Kindness Journey – Day 44 -Black Cats

Black Cats are considered bad luck by many people. I disagree.

Just look at our babies and then try telling me that they somehow represent anything other than unconditional love and affection.

We adopted our first Black cat, Hal without even thinking about superstition. We heard how difficult it was to find people willing to adopt Black cats. There are people who would willingly hurt Black cats solely because of their color.

We resolved to adopt Black cats and we’ve never regretted it. We believe that Black cats are somehow more in tune with peoples’ emotions, and whether they mean to harm them.

Our Black cats are fiercely loyal. They have chased dogs away by working as a team. They are smart, they are resourceful, and they constantly shower us with love and affection.

The next time someone says that a Black cat is bad luck, please remember that you are listening to an idiot saying that.

Kindness Journey- Day 43 -Radio

We live in an age of almost instantaneous information exchange. I call it “infoporn” because there is so much that we really just don’t need to know being shouted all over the place.

I long for a simpler time. A time when radio was king. People still got their information and entertainment, but it was delivered in manageable doses each day, instead of the constant deluge we get today. I watch old movies and marvel at families huddled around a radio for entertainment and information.

My Dad was a HAM radio operator. He taught me that there was an entire world out there that didn’t have to be seen. I often prefer listening to the radio even today to being overloaded with infoporn that is far too readily available.

Usually if the radio isn’t on, I’m not listening to, or watching anything. Radio fuels my imagination.

Kindness Journey- Day 42 – Our upcoming Move

In just over a month, Hal (person), myself, and The Stooges will be moving yet again. Over the last 10 years, we have moved 7 times. Next month will be our 8th move. The ever-increasing cost of living keeps us from settling down like we want to.

Each time we get to a new place, we tell ourselves that “This is the place where we can settle down for several years”. Sadly, that hasn’t been the case. In fact, the reason we’re moving this summer is that our current apartment rent will increase by $800 (NOT A TYPO) per month if we remain. There is no excuse for this other than pure greed. Capitalism at its worst.

We’ve never seriously considered buying a house, but we have agreed that we can explore that possibility after we get to our new apartment. A new city with much lower housing costs makes things more appealing and we won’t be rushed to make a decision.

We also decided that if circumstances force us to move again after the next lease, we are going to look west. We aren’t going any further south because things are just too intolerable there. I’ve looked at New Mexico as a possible destination and I would love to make a trip there to see what it is actually like. We have lived on the East Coast since we first met, so perhaps it is time for a change for us. I could certainly do with a climate that won’t aggravate my sinuses any more.

Time will tell if this move is our last for awhile. We both hope so, but we’re preparing for whatever comes our way.

Kindness Journey – Day 41 – My Perfect Desk

I have had the secretary style desk for some time, but when we make our move to Richmond later this summer, it will become my main workspace. The secretary desk was just used for storage, not as a desk. For years I used a standing desk from IKEA, but we won’t have as much space in the new apartment.

When I became I’ll and was hospitalized, this desk started to become unnecessary. Since I’ve been on disability and no longer work, the desk simply wasn’t needed. We donated it to the Salvation Army.

I’m actually looking forward to downsizing in many parts of my life. I’ve found that accumulated junk serves no purpose. Every time we move, it is a new catharsis for us. We purge things we no longer need or use. The local Salvation Army loves us each time we move.

I’m looking forward to downsizing when we move. It forces me to determine what is really important in my life, and that makes me more appreciative overall. My perfect desk is just an example.