A Valuable Lesson

Lessons are another word for learning from our mistakes, or from the mistakes of those who came before us. It usually doesn’t matter if others have already made the error; humans have the gift of wanting to make the same mistake again themselves. My story involves a genuinely one-way love. I was younger and thought that I knew everything necessary about life, and I considered myself a good judge of character. I didn’t realize some people were much better at acting than I was at spotting them. I fell head over heels in love and was busy making plans for a beautiful future together while the other person was making plans to abscond with my bank account and everything in it.

Luckily, my friends convinced me that I needed to see for myself what was going on and what I saw shocked me. The person I loved thought I was out of town or a few weeks. In reality, I was staying with friends and surreptitiously watching my significant other. I was only shocked the first time when I saw how they showed no regard for our relationship. I quickly built up my defenses and prepared to face them over their behavior.
When the time came to confront them, I was ready. I didn’t let the subject change because the confrontation was about their behavior, not mine. In less than 10 minutes, I had effectively ended the relationship and cast them to the curb. The pain was unbearable at the time, but I knew it w. I knew then that the mistake had been in allowing someone to win my trust and affection so easily. I swore that it would never happen to me again, and it hasn’t. I learned to be more wary of people and to delay putting my trust in them until I felt at ease.

Now I am happy after 20 years with Hal (person), and I am glad that, in hindsight, I learned the valuable lesson about trust and love.

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