Dreamer’s World November 30, 2018 – Think Before You Hit Enter

It seems like every day we find out about someone else who says something incredibly stupid in the digital world and then seems surprised when the real world finds out about it. The latest example was the person who threatened to burn down a high school in Louisville, KY because of the favorite son not returning to take the job as head football coach at the University of Louisville.


The person who made the threat claims that it was simply a bad joke. This is the same defense that another person used in reference to their online post that depicted the head football coach at Florida State University being lynched.

People will always say stupid things when talking among friends and family, but putting those thoughts out for the digital world to see is something entirely different.

The person in Louisville has been arrested and charged with making a terrorist threat. The fact that he named a target for his action makes this a clear case. If he had just said something derogatory about the coach who spurned his beloved school, nothing else would have been said. Instead, this person had to get so intricately involved in his statements that the high school in question actually canceled classes out of an abundance of caution.

The Florida State situation was even worse. The idea of posting a doctored photo of a lynching and putting the face of the African-American coach on the victim shows the true extent of how disturbed that person really is. He has been fired from his job because of the outrage over his post online. No amount of apologies can take back what he did.

The whole issue of online posting and repercussions seems to repeat itself over and over. One would think that people would learn that words have consequences, and yet these things continue to happen. In both cases, I cannot understand how these people can take the time to create these elaborate statements and images without the possible consequences at least entering their minds before they actually post them.

There is a lot to be said about the old adage “Think Before You Speak.” Today, it should read “Think Before You Hit Enter.” If there is even the slightest doubt about posting whatever you are working on, common sense would seem to indicate that you shouldn’t post it in the first place.

I gave up on Twitter and Facebook because of many things, one of those was the incessant hate that gets spewed on there every single day. I tried my best to never threaten anyone, even if they threatened me because I know that it is all pointless and will only lead to trouble. As I now focus on this blog, I still refuse to get into online arguments with anonymous people because of the temptation to say something that I would regret is always there. I am not unique, we all have our limits and we have to learn to moderate ourselves before we say something incredibly stupid or insensitive since the world at large will certainly do that for us after we make a mistake or say something incredibly stupid or insensitive.

Dreamer’s World November 28, 2018 – Adjusting My Priorities

I have been focusing far too much on myself recently. There are issues with the job that have upset me, and that has taken my focus away from things that are truly important to me. I have become selfish and ignored things here that should have had my attention.
Yesterday, I noticed that Spartacus, our oldest cat, had scratched so hard that he injured himself on the side of his neck. The poor guy had an open wound that I could feel but hidden under his fur. I found it when rubbing him and giving him attention. I spoke with Hal, and he called the vet.
We took Spartacus in, and the vet said that he is on good health for a cat of 17 years. The scratch was superficial, and there was no infection. I was relieved to hear that, and we obtained medicine to put on the area that will help it to heal. When we got home, Spartacus acted as if he knew that we were helping him out. He was very calm as I rubbed the medicine onto his skin. I expected a struggle, but there was none.
After the excitement died down, I thought about how I had managed to ignore something as important as Spartacus. He depends on us for everything, and I let him down by not paying enough attention to him. I felt guilty about this, and I wondered what I could to make things right. The first thing was to identify why I had let this happen.
The situation at work was the problem. I cannot change what is going on, but I can change how I deal with it. The issue with Spartacus was the moment of clarity for me. I knew that I had to decide to let the work stress go and focus again on things here at home. Whatever crap work throws at me, I will survive and prosper. Getting upset at a situation, I cannot control was pointless and also allowed my focus to slip away from the important things and people in my life.
Today, I rubbed the medicine onto Spartacus before I started work and I took the time to bond with him. I felt how he responded to my touch and the sound of my voice. I saw what I believe was gratitude in his eyes as I spoke to him. I did these things before I signed in to work for the day. I know that action calmed me before starting the work routine.
Things have to change. I will not let work dictate my life any longer. I have too many other things that require my attention, and I know that work will go smoothly or be stressful. If work is stressful, I will find ways to alleviate that stress before it consumes me.